The Convention’s Etiquette: Pilot

The Convention’s Etiquette is a series on the Do’s, Don’ts and how to behave at Events, and/or Conventions.

Please behave yourselves in the field. 🤔

Credits to the various sources seen in this post.

I DO NOT own the rights to any of the photos, videos or external material seen in this post, with a source linked to it.


To The Convention’s Etiquette.

New to attending an event or convention? 🤔

Need an idea on how to behave in the field? 🤔

Or a guide on how NOT to act in front of people? 🤔

Stick around, and check it out. 🤔🤔🤔

Simple rule of thumb, be polite, be efficient, don’t be a dickweed, and you’ll be fine.

Before we start,

WARNING, before you proceed, the following post is really, really LONG.

But, for a smaller, bite sized version of each Rule, check em out below,

The Convention’s Etiquette: Pilot – Rule #1: Got Permits?

The Convention’s Etiquette: Pilot – Rule #2: No Touchy.

The Convention’s Etiquette: Pilot – Rule #3: Wait for It.

What you read here, will be the same stuff, memes, jokes seen here anyways.

In any case, I leave it to you to decide, on how you want to play this.

Now, lettuce begin.



Always ask for permission to,

1) Take a person’s photo.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if you can take their photo.
  • DON’T, take their photo from a distance like a creep.
    • See Rule 1.3 Avoid The Longshot.

Who are these “Persons”?

  • Cosplayers.
  • Event Guests/Performers/Celebrities.
  • Regular Event Attendees.

How To Approach?

  • Plan A, Walk up the person, and ask if you could take their photo.
    • Greet the person, then ask.
    • When greeting someone, be super Polite.
    • “Hi there, can I take a photo of you?”
  • If you cannot reach the person, attempt the following
    • Plan B, Wave your palm, in front of them to get their attention. (Highly Recommended)
    • Plan C, Ask the people accompanying them, they’ll pass the request to them.
      • For small groups of people.
    • Plan D, Give a Shoulder Tap. (LAST RESORT)
  • In the case of Children,
    • First, ask their Parent’s or Guardian’s permission first,
    • Then, ask the kids themselves for their permission.
      • Parents accompanying their kids do not speak for their kids, even if they do give permission.

Quick Tips #1

  • Watch your surroundings when taking the photo.
    • When Outdoors, lookout for,
      • Wind, if it’s disturbing the photoshoot.
      • Clouds, for incoming rain.
    • When Indoors, lookout for,
      • Crowds, avoid getting in people’s way.
      • Same case, if you see someone photographing.
  • If possible, show the photo taken to the person.
    • Check if the photo is okay.
    • Assess if you need to shoot again.

2) Take a person’s photo WITH them.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if you can take a photo with them.
  • DON’T, try anything funny when taking a photo with them up close.

OwO What’s this?

  • Taking a selfie with someone, or a group.
  • Getting someone to take your photo with a person, or group.

How To Approach?

  • First, ASK if you can take a selfie or photo with the person.
    • Greet the person, then specify your request.
    • “Hi there,”
      • “Can I take a selfie with you?” or “Can we take a selfie?”
      • “Can I take a photo with you?”
  • For Selfies,
    • You are responsible for the selfie shot.
    • Have your phone on standby in selfie mode, and aim carefully.
  • For Photos with the person,
    • Have a friend on standby to take the photo for you. (Highly Recommended)
    • Ask a nearby stranger to help take the photo.
  • In the case of a Person’s Instax/Camera/Phone Camera,
    • Leave it to the owner to handle that,
    • It’s likely the owner knows how to pilot their equipment better.

Quick Tips #2

  • Same case, Watch your surroundings. (See Quick Tips #1)
    • Especially for photos with people.
  • For Selfies,
    • You don’t need to much space for the shot.
    • Just ensure the camera gets both faces, and you’re good to go.
  • For Photo with,
    • For booth guests, avoid asking them to leave their booth.
      • If possible, just take the photo with the person by their booth. (Highly Recommended)
      • UNLESS, they are okay with the request to leave.

3) Film people.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if you can film them.
  • DON’T, try filming any <Censored> parts of people without them knowing.

OwO What’s this?

  • Video recordings of people via a camera or phone camera.

How To Approach?

  • First, check if the person or persons is okay with being filmed.
  • Next, explain what your plan is clearly, before filming.
    • This can range from skits, dances or interviews etc.
  • Then, once both you and the person/persons understand the plan, then proceed.

4) Post a person’s photo or tag them on social media

  • DO, ask if it’s okay to tag a person online later, then ask for their information.
    • You’ll either get,
      • A coscard.
      • Their profile/page name.
  • DON’T, post or tag someone without asking.
    • Some people prefer not to be tagged online.
    • Ask beforehand to avoid troubling other people, even unintentionally.
    • Most folks are usually okay, but CHECK with them to be safe.

OwO What’s this?

  • <insert section’s title here>. 🤔

How To Approach?

  • First, Ask if it’s okay to tag the person,
    • In the case of after taking someone’s photo with their permission.
      • “Is it okay to tag you later?”
      • “May I have your Cos Card or profile name to tag you later?”
  • Next, Thank the person by the name they’ve given/presented, from their Coscard/Info provided. (Highly Recommended)
    • “Thank you Mr/Miss <Insert name here>”.
    • People Have Names, please address them as such.
      • Especially if it’s the first time you’re meeting them.
  • Optional, Asking about the character they’re cosplaying.
    • This helps identify the cosplayer’s character and series, and helps with online tagging.
    • NOT COMPULSORY, but it does help confirm/explain some info about their cosplay.
      • “What is this character’s name?”
      • “What series is this character from?”
  • In the case of people who are unwilling to be tagged,
    • DO NOT TAG THEM, even with their information.
    • ENSURE the photos taken of said person is returned to them at the very least, then leave it at that.
    • Returning the photos to the person gives your assurance that the photos are not mishandled.

Quick Tips #3

  • If you don’t know the name of the person to tag, ask around.
    • Helps avoid tagging/identifying the wrong people.
    • Other people/cosplayers. (Highly Recommended)
      • Likely that they can help identify and inform the person.
    • Cosplay/Event Groups.
      • Would get the same result, but can be a bit 50/50.
      • You either get it or you don’t.
    • If you can’t find the person, it’s okay, just leave it at that.
      • Best case, you run into them at a future event.
  • Optional, returning the photos taken of a person to them manually.
    • Most attendees/cosplayers are usually cool with getting their photos taken from photographers back.
      • Whatever they use it for, it’s their business.

5) touch a person’s stuff.

  • DO, approach and ask if you can touch a person’s item.
  • DON’T, touch people’s stuff without their knowledge or consent.

OwO What’s this?

  • Handling items that don’t belong to you.
    • Cosplay Costumes.
    • Cosplay Props.
    • Booth Merch on display.
    • Band instruments.

How to Approach?

  • First, Ask if you can touch someone’s item.
    • It’s likely the owner will be holding their item.
    • Cosplayer & their props.
    • Booth people with their items.
  • Once you’re done, return the item in one piece.
    • You are responsible for the item when not in the owner’s hands.
    • If anything happens to it, it’s your responsi-blyat-ti/responsibility.

Quick Tips #4

  • Always stay near the owner of the item, to ensure maximum safety.
    • Applies to booths as well.

6) Speak to a person.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if they’re free to talk.
  • DON’T, attempt to,
    • jump into a conversation midway when a person looks busy.
    • bring up <insert Swear Word here> topics when talking to someone.

OwO What’s this?

  • Interacting with someone, via talking.

How to Approach?

  • First, greet the person, then ask if they’re free to talk.
    • Plan A, direct approach.
      • “Hi Mr/Miss <Insert name here>,” or “Hi <Insert name here>”
      • “Are you free to talk?” or “You got some to talk?”
    • Plan B, in case you forgot/don’t know the person’s name.
      • “Hi, Mr/Miss,”
      • “Are you free to talk?” or “You got some to talk?”
    • Formality is not compulsory.
      • If you know the person’s name, just skip the “Mr/Miss”.
        • Can get annoying or disturbing if used in excess.
      • Only go formal if,
        • It’s the 1st time you’re meeting that person.
        • High Profile People (Celebrities, guests etc)
    • Plan C, wave your palm to get their attention, then ask and if you can speak to them from there. (Highly Recommended)
    • Plan D, give the person a shoulder tap, then same as Plan C.
      • Recommended as a LAST RESORT.

Quick Tips #5

  • When speaking with someone, speak loud and clear.
    • Events can get noisy as F, so adjust your voice for the situation.
  • Optional, move to a quieter location.

In Short,

People at conventions are usually cool with people who approach them and ask for permission first.

And would likely be okay with your request, if you asked, and explained (For Filming etc), beforehand.

That said,


tenor (1)

If you do get a NO as a response, DO NOT fret, be offended or panic.

Just give a simple,

  • “No worries, it’s cool.”
  • “No worries, it’s okay.”

Assure the person you asked it’s all okay, and be on your way.


Whatever reason they have for saying no, RESPECT IT, Accept It, and Move On.


Permission granted by someone to <Insert Request here> is NOT an excuse to,

1) Get touchy with the person.

  • Touching inappropriate places. (MF-king NO)
  • <Insert other BS here>
  • See Rule 2: No Touchy.

2) Request something inappropriate.

  • Asking for questionable poses. (BIG F No)
  • <Insert other BS 2.0 here>
  • Also, See Rule 2: No Touchy.

3) Act like a creep.

  • Asking for personal information.
  • Talking about “certain topics”.
  • Giving someone a/an <Insert inappropriate gift here> (Seriously, F this example)

4) Assume the cosplayer is “In-Character.

  • Not every cosplayer is “In-Character”.
  • Treat them like normal people, not like the character they’re cosplaying.
    • Cosplayers decide if they want to be “In-Character”, no one else does.

5) Disturb/Harass people Post-Event

  • Never do this.
    • To, the thirsty F-Sticks on the internet, piss off.
    • It’s no wonder some of these F-kers never got past 5 cm.
  • Includes,
    • Public Posts calling out people. *cough*<Redacted><Redacted>4*cough*
      • Aka, material used for Libel/Defamation suits. ;3
      • I mean, it is their funeral.
    • <Insert other BS Mk.3 here>

If something feels wrong, DON’T MF-KING DO IT.

People are NOT idiots.

They know when someone’s trying something funny.
Avoid causing discomfort to people, even if you have their permission.



If you see a chance to take someone’s photo or record them from a distance,
DON’T F-ing DO IT.

If you do want to take photos of people, just ask for permission.

Especially if you dickweeds who do this $-hit plan to upload those photos publicly without the person knowing about it.
Don’t be an opportunistic dick.

I believe this is what folks in the West call, a Creep. #caughtcreep



Source: Left Photo, Right Photo

Don’t be a Creep. (Or Minion, as they’re known as in other similar places.)

Creeps are good for only 3 things,

  • Early game tanking.
  • Last hitting for Gold.
  • Expanding as Zerg.
  • Becoming public enemy #1. *cough*realworldreference*cough*

If you can avoid taking longshots, avoid it like the plague.

Or try Rule 3: Wait for it.

HOWEVER, there are,

Exceptions to Rule 1.3 – The 5W 1Hs

1) Public Event Photoshoots

  • OwO What’s this?

    • A Photoshoot of people by various photographers.
  • Who are involved?

    • Cosplayers.
      • Sometimes people not cosplaying as well.
    • Photographers.
  • Where at?

    • The Event Venue.
    • Or place near the Event Venue.
  • When?

    • Anytime during the event.
    • Duration varies based on the photographer/s.
  • How to Approach?

    • Ask for permission from the person being photographed before taking the shot. (Highly Recommended)
    • If you want to take photos at a different place, wait until both the photographer and cosplayer finish their session.
      • Give the cosplayer some time to recover first, then proceed.
      • Wait for them to decide if they’re ready. (Highly Recommended)
  • But Why? 🤔

    • Part of a courtesy call.
    • Ensures you’re not taking shots from a distance like a creep.

2) Event Activities

  • OwO What’s this?

    • Event scheduled performances/activities.
  • Who are involved?

    • Performers.
      • Range from singers, dancers or cosplayers. (Varied, based on event.)
  • Where at?

    • Event Stage Area.
  • When?

    • Depends on the event schedule.
    • Duration varies based on the activity.
  • How to approach?

    • First, Check with the event crew and/or management for permission.
      • Event staff are usually okay, but check to be safe.
    • Next, Take the photo shots or video recording, alongside other camera Crew setup near the stage.
      • Avoid getting in the way of other cameras or Crew, keep eyes open for those. (In other words, DOOOOODGE!)
  • But Why? 🤔

    • Event activities/performances are recorded by Event Staff or Independent Photographers/Videographers.
      • Used for event coverage, or handmade content.
      • Gives an idea of what activities are happening at an event.



Kuzco’s right!

Keep those itchy hands where we can see em!


Credits to AMG-Chan and Animangaki for these photos.


Say it with me, class.





Very good, this will not be coming out for your exam.

*sees brick flying in the distance*

*To be Continued*

Whether someone is a Cosplayer or not, hands up.
NO ONE, has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Even with permission, avoid doing it.


1) Glomping (Tackle hugging)

Real Life is NOT an anime,

You could potentially,

  • Physically harm someone.
  • Damage people’s props.
  • Give wrong impressions about the ACG scene.

Glomping is only for 2 scenarios,

  • Online Chat Rooms.
  • Choreographed Glomps.

2) Physical Violence

If there is trouble, call in the following,

  • Event Staff.
  • Venue Security.
  • The Cops.
  • The FBI (If Malaysia had one!)

I know some of us want to deck scumbags in public, but let’s not turn guilty parties into the victim.

3) <Insert BS 4.0 here>

Basically, touching a person’s body because “Opportunity”.

And/or items that don’t belong to you.

You thirsty MF-Kers don’t CB.


Ninja Mudkip. 🤔

Watches. 👀

You. 👀 👀 👀

Don’t be surprised if one of you itchy F-Sticks gets Mudkip punched at a future event. 🤔

Exceptions to Rule 2 – The 5W 1Hs

1) Photoshoot Assistance

  • OwO What’s this?

    • Photoshoots that involve helpers helping out.
    • Usually by holding a cosplayer’s costume to assist in setting up that perfect photo for the photographer.
  • Who are involved?

    • Cosplayers.
    • Photographers.
    • Helpers.
      • People associated with either the cosplayer, photographer, or both.
  • Where at?

    • The Event Venue.
      • Usually a wide open space to accommodate multiple people.
      • Varies based on the venue itself.
  • When?

    • Anytime during the event.
    • Duration varies based on the photographer/s.
  • But Why? 🤔

    • To land that perfect photo shot.
    • Needs assistance from people to,
      • Hold a cosplayer’s costume.
      • Release it at the right time.
      • Have the photographer take the shot.
      • Can take multiple attempts.

2) Normal Gestures

  • OwO What’s this?

    • Everyday gestures between people.
  • Who are involved?

    • Pretty much anyone.
    • Usually people that know one another, or people with permission granted.
  • But Why? 🤔

    • Normal human interactions. (Because duh.)

3) Public Break Ups

  • OwO What’s this?

    • NO, not the kind of “break-ups” from TV Dramas.
    • YES, the kind of breakup that involves getting people off other people.
      • Meant to calm situation between parties that might get touchy.
  • Who are involved?

    • People too itchy to punch people.
      • Depends on the situation.
    • People not too itchy to punch people.
      • Event staff.
      • Regular bystanders.
      • Security detail for high profile people.
  • But Why? 🤔

    • Meant to keep people away from others.
      • Security escorting a Celebrity/Guests etc.



Please do wait patiently for people if they are busy.

Wait for an opportunity to approach them.

Watch with patience, and assess a situation before barging in.

The best intentions an go F itself if your approach comes across as,

  • rude.
  • disturbing.
  • a reason to ignore by default.

People’s personal priorities come first, everything else comes second.

Also, you guys have eyes right?


So Keep Your Eyes Peeled.


People can be approached at anytime during an event.

But there are both good and awful times to approach people.

Phase #1: Timing Time

Best times to approach

  • When a person is,
    • Standing/sitting around idly.
      • Not recommended to approach if a person is sitting down, since they might be Resting.
      • May be “Okay”, depending on the person.
    • Roaming around the event.
      • Either solo or with a companion/friends.
      • Avoid, if they appear tired.
    • Taking photos with others,
      • For taking photos of/with the person.
      • Best to tag along with other photographers, as not to drag the person around too much. (Highly Recommended)
  • In the case of Guest Booths with people lining up,
    • If it’s your turn, it’s your turn.
      • During your turn, avoid taking too much time, if there’s people lining up behind.
      • That’s just a dick move, since there’s always people who want to meet the guests. 🤔

Worst times to approach

  • When a person is,
    • Resting.
      • They’re usually sitting/seated in the event, or at a place to eat.
      • Includes having meals, fiddling with their phone etc.
    • Interacting with other people.
      • It’s Rude/Rood to interrupt. >:
    • Handling their merch/items.
      • Involves signing, or providing their stuff etc.
    • Preparing/removing their costume.
      • Includes doing makeup, suiting up or taking off their costume. (For cosplayers wearing armor etc.)
    • Preparing their pose. (For photoshoots.)
    • Departing the event.

These are only suggestions, since depending on the person, some of the scenarios to avoid approaching may be okay.
But, they are NEVER guaranteed to work with every person you meet in the field.

One advice I can give,

Watch the situation, then decide if it’s the best time to approach.

That said, there is also one upside.
BEST CASE, the person approaches you instead. 😀

Phase #2: How to get people’s attention?

Plan A, call out to the person by name.

  • Do, approach and address the person by their name.
  • Do Not, shout like a madman,
  • SUPER EFFECTIVE, at getting people’s attention.
  • Formality is Optional.
    • Addressing someone as “Mr/Miss”.
    • Recommended IF,
      • It’s the first time meeting.
      • The person is quite a high profile person. (Celebrities etc)
    • Avoid IF,
      • The person asks/requests not to address formally.
      • You know the person well enough.
  • If you forgot or don’t know their name, ask,
    • “How may I address you?”
    • “How do I call you?”

Plan B, wave in front of them. (Highly Recommended)

  • One of the best ways to approach people, since
    • You avoid having to touching them.
    • It’s also a universal sign to contact someone.
  • Avoid doing it from super far, since people might be mistakenly jebaited.

Plan C, give the person a shoulder tap.

  • Recommended only as a LAST RESORT.
  • Usually effective to get people’s attention.
    • Once you got their attention, explain your reason to contacting them immediately.
  • Shoulder Taps run the risk of not going through the first time.
    • Sometimes, you might need multiple taps since some costumes might block people’s senses.

Closed Call

ACG Events and Conventions can be welcoming places for people to gather, hang out and chill at.

However, there are those out there that would insist on causing trouble/discomfort for people in the scene.

Events should NEVER be a place where people should feel uncomfortable attending.

Anyone contributing to that discomfort, piss off, and go F yourselves. (You thirsty 5cm rocket sized F-Sticks.)

Or well, go drop by the Mental Asylum, they’re still looking for you escaped patients.



Source: Leftmost GIF, Rightmost Photo

You could sign up for an Event Ban (Left),

Get arrested by the Cops (Middle),

Or have a Lawyer’s suit thrown at your face (Right).

That said, on the other side of the coin.

The ACG Community, over the last 5 to 6-ish months from my experience, are a band of very welcoming folks.

They’re not idiots.

They know the things all around them, and don’t exactly like it when people try anything funny.

They’re like Ducks.

Mess with one, and the entire herd comes hunting you like the Mighty Ducks.

To Newcomers to the scene,

Don’t be afraid of experienced folks in the scene.

Most of them are pretty chilled experienced folks, who are already used to the stuff to expect from events. (Request for photos, talking to people etc)

Point is, they’ve got you covered, the same way some folks in the scene sort of…encouraged a stranger like me before.

And they can do the same to pretty much anyone new.

You just have to well…Be Polite. Be Efficient. Be a Professional, with Standards.

Just do your part, and you’ll be fine.


Author’s Note:

Gonna put make this short, since I really don’t have much to say.

…other than well, this is my way of giving something back.

It just feels like, it’s the thing I can sort of do for the ACG Scene at the least.


Check out more stories over at S.I.R House, of Content 2019.

Also, siteinrelief has a Facebook page now!

Page us anytime, anywhere, Amway offers will be shot on sight, no questions asked.

Send all your regularly scheduled buckets of insalts, piss and empty threats there for us to ignore by default. ;3

Or Feedback over what we can do better for this series, I’m always up to read that.



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