The Convention’s Etiquette: Pilot – Rule #1

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Always ask for permission to,

1) Take a person’s photo.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if you can take their photo.
  • DON’T, take their photo from a distance like a creep.
    • See Rule 1.3 Avoid The Longshot.

Who are these “Persons”?

  • Cosplayers.
  • Event Guests/Performers/Celebrities. 
  • Regular Event Attendees.

How To Approach?

  • Plan A, Walk up the person, and ask if you could take their photo.
    • Greet the person, then ask.
    • When greeting someone, be super Polite.
    • “Hi there, can I take a photo of you?”
  • If you cannot reach the person, attempt the following
    • Plan B, Wave your palm, in front of them to get their attention. (Highly Recommended)
    • Plan C, Ask the people accompanying them, they’ll pass the request to them.
      • For small groups of people.
    • Plan D, Give a Shoulder Tap. (LAST RESORT)
  • In the case of Children,
    • First, ask their Parent’s or Guardian’s permission first,
    • Then, ask the kids themselves for their permission.
      • Parents accompanying their kids do not speak for their kids, even if they do give permission.

Quick Tips #1

  • Watch your surroundings when taking the photo.
    • When Outdoors, lookout for,
      • Wind, if it’s disturbing the photoshoot.
      • Clouds, for incoming rain.
    • When Indoors, lookout for,
      • Crowds, avoid getting in people’s way.
      • Same case, if you see someone photographing.
  • If possible, show the photo taken to the person.
    • Check if the photo is okay.
    • Assess if you need to shoot again.

2) Take a person’s photo WITH them.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if you can take a photo with them.
  • DON’T, try anything funny when taking a photo with them up close.

OwO What’s this?

  • Taking a selfie with someone, or a group.
  • Getting someone to take your photo with a person, or group.

How To Approach?

  • First, ASK if you can take a selfie or photo with the person.
    • Greet the person, then specify your request.
    • “Hi there,” 
      • “Can I take a selfie with you?” or “Can we take a selfie?”
      • “Can I take a photo with you?” 
  • For Selfies,
    • You are responsible for the selfie shot.
    • Have your phone on standby in selfie mode, and aim carefully.
  • For Photos with the person,
    • Have a friend on standby to take the photo for you. (Highly Recommended)
    • Ask a nearby stranger to help take the photo.
  • In the case of a Person’s Instax/Camera/Phone Camera,
    • Leave it to the owner to handle that,
    • It’s likely the owner knows how to pilot their equipment better.

Quick Tips #2

  • Same case, Watch your surroundings. (See Quick Tips #1)
    • Especially for photos with people.
  • For Selfies, 
    • You don’t need to much space for the shot.
    • Just ensure the camera gets both faces, and you’re good to go.
  • For Photo with,
    • For booth guests, avoid asking them to leave their booth.
      • If possible, just take the photo with the person by their booth. (Highly Recommended)
      • UNLESS, they are okay with the request to leave.

3) Film people.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if you can film them.
  • DON’T, try filming any <Censored> parts of people without them knowing.

OwO What’s this?

  • Video recordings of people via a camera or phone camera.

How To Approach?

  • First, check if the person or persons is okay with being filmed.
  • Next, explain what your plan is clearly, before filming.
    • This can range from skits, dances or interviews etc.
  • Then, once both you and the person/persons understand the plan, then proceed.

4) Post a person’s photo or tag them on social media

  • DO, ask if it’s okay to tag a person online later, then ask for their information.
    • You’ll either get,
      • A coscard.
      • Their profile/page name.
  • DON’T, post or tag someone without asking.
    • Some people prefer not to be tagged online.
    • Ask beforehand to avoid troubling other people, even unintentionally.
    • Most folks are usually okay, but CHECK with them to be safe.

OwO What’s this?

  • <insert section’s title here>. 🤔

How To Approach?

  • First, Ask if it’s okay to tag the person,
    • In the case of after taking someone’s photo with their permission.
      • “Is it okay to tag you later?”
      • “May I have your Cos Card or profile name to tag you later?”
  • Next, Thank the person by the name they’ve given/presented, from their Coscard/Info provided. (Highly Recommended)
    • “Thank you Mr/Miss <Insert name here>”.
    • People Have Names, please address them as such.
      • Especially if it’s the first time you’re meeting them.
  • Optional, Asking about the character they’re cosplaying.
    • This helps identify the cosplayer’s character and series, and helps with online tagging.
    • NOT COMPULSORY, but it does help confirm/explain some info about their cosplay.
      • “What is this character’s name?”
      • “What series is this character from?”
  • In the case of people who are unwilling to be tagged,
    • DO NOT TAG THEM, even with their information.
    • ENSURE the photos taken of said person is returned to them at the very least, then leave it at that.
    • Returning the photos to the person gives your assurance that the photos are not mishandled.

Quick Tips #3

  • If you don’t know the name of the person to tag, ask around.
    • Helps avoid tagging/identifying the wrong people.
    • Other people/cosplayers. (Highly Recommended)
      • Likely that they can help identify and inform the person.
    • Cosplay/Event Groups.
      • Would get the same result, but can be a bit 50/50.
      • You either get it or you don’t.
    • If you can’t find the person, it’s okay, just leave it at that.
      • Best case, you run into them at a future event.
  • Optional, returning the photos taken of a person to them manually.
    • Most attendees/cosplayers are usually cool with getting their photos taken from photographers back.
      • Whatever they use it for, it’s their business.

5) touch a person’s stuff.

  • DO, approach and ask if you can touch a person’s item.
  • DON’T, touch people’s stuff without their knowledge or consent.

OwO What’s this?

  • Handling items that don’t belong to you.
    • Cosplay Costumes.
    • Cosplay Props.
    • Booth Merch on display.
    • Band instruments.

How to Approach?

  • First, Ask if you can touch someone’s item.
    • It’s likely the owner will be holding their item.
    • Cosplayer & their props.
    • Booth people with their items.
  • Once you’re done, return the item in one piece.
    • You are responsible for the item when not in the owner’s hands.
    • If anything happens to it, it’s your responsi-blyat-ti/responsibility.

Quick Tips #4

  • Always stay near the owner of the item, to ensure maximum safety.
    • Applies to booths as well.

6) Speak to a person.

  • DO, approach the person and ask if they’re free to talk.
  • DON’T, attempt to,
    • jump into a conversation midway when a person looks busy.
    • bring up <insert Swear Word here> topics when talking to someone.

OwO What’s this?

  • Interacting with someone, via talking.

How to Approach?

  • First, greet the person, then ask if they’re free to talk.
    • Plan A, direct approach.
      • “Hi Mr/Miss <Insert name here>,” or “Hi <Insert name here>”
      • “Are you free to talk?” or “You got some to talk?”
    • Plan B, in case you forgot/don’t know the person’s name.
      • “Hi, Mr/Miss,”
      • “Are you free to talk?” or “You got some to talk?”
    • Formality is not compulsory.
      • If you know the person’s name, just skip the “Mr/Miss”.
        • Can get annoying or disturbing if used in excess.
      • Only go formal if,
        • It’s the 1st time you’re meeting that person.
        • High Profile People (Celebrities, guests etc)
    • Plan C, wave your palm to get their attention, then ask and if you can speak to them from there. (Highly Recommended)
    • Plan D, give the person a shoulder tap, then same as Plan C. 
      • Recommended as a LAST RESORT.

Quick Tips #5

  • When speaking with someone, speak loud and clear.
    • Events can get noisy as F, so adjust your voice for the situation.
  • Optional, move to a quieter location.

In Short,

People at conventions are usually cool with people who approach them and ask for permission first.

And would likely be okay with your request, if you asked, and explained (For Filming etc), beforehand.

That said,


tenor (1)

If you do get a NO as a response, DO NOT fret, be offended or panic.

Just give a simple,

  • “No worries, it’s cool.”
  • “No worries, it’s okay.”

Assure the person you asked it’s all okay, and be on your way.


Whatever reason they have for saying no, RESPECT IT, Accept It, and Move On.


Permission granted by someone to <Insert Request here> is NOT an excuse to,

1) Get touchy with the person.

  • Touching inappropriate places. (MF-king NO)
  • <Insert other BS here>
  • See Rule 2: No Touchy.

2) Request something inappropriate.

  • Asking for questionable poses. (BIG F No)
  • <Insert other BS 2.0 here>
  • Also, See Rule 2: No Touchy.

3) Act like a creep.

  • Asking for personal information.
  • Talking about “certain topics”.
  • Giving someone a/an <Insert inappropriate gift here> (Seriously, F this example)

4) Assume the cosplayer is “In-Character.

  • Not every cosplayer is “In-Character”.
  • Treat them like normal people, not like the character they’re cosplaying.
    • Cosplayers decide if they want to be “In-Character”, no one else does.

5) Disturb/Harass people Post-Event

  • Never do this.
    • To, the thirsty F-Sticks on the internet, piss off.
    • It’s no wonder some of these F-kers never got past 5 cm.
  • Includes,
    • Public Posts calling out people. *cough*<Redacted><Redacted>4*cough*
      • Aka, material used for Libel/Defamation suits. ;3
      • I mean, it is their funeral.
    • <Insert other BS Mk.3 here>

If something feels wrong, DON’T MF-KING DO IT.

People are NOT idiots.

They know when someone’s trying something funny.

Avoid causing discomfort to people, even if you have their permission.



If you see a chance to take someone’s photo or record them from a distance,

DON’T F-ing DO IT.

If you do want to take photos of people, just ask for permission.

Especially if you dickweeds who do this $-hit plan to upload those photos publicly without the person knowing about it.

Don’t be an opportunistic dick.

I believe this is what folks in the West call, a Creep. #caughtcreep






Source: Left Photo, Right Photo

Don’t be a Creep. (Or Minion, as they’re known as in other similar places.)

Creeps are good for only 3 things,

  • Early game tanking.
  • Last hitting for Gold.
  • Expanding as Zerg.
  • Becoming public enemy #1. *cough*realworldreference*cough*

If you can avoid taking longshots, avoid it like the plague.

Or try Rule 3: Wait for it.

HOWEVER, there are,

Exceptions to Rule 1.3 – The 5W 1Hs

1) Public Event Photoshoots

  • OwO What’s this?

    • A Photoshoot of people by various photographers.
  • Who are involved?

    • Cosplayers. 
      • Sometimes people not cosplaying as well.
    • Photographers.
  • Where at?

    • The Event Venue.
    • Or place near the Event Venue.
  • When?

    • Anytime during the event.
    • Duration varies based on the photographer/s.
  • How to Approach?

    • Ask for permission from the person being photographed before taking the shot. (Highly Recommended)
    • If you want to take photos at a different place, wait until both the photographer and cosplayer finish their session.
      • Give the cosplayer some time to recover first, then proceed.
      • Wait for them to decide if they’re ready. (Highly Recommended)
  • But Why? 🤔

    • Part of a courtesy call.
    • Ensures you’re not taking shots from a distance like a creep.

2) Event Activities

  • OwO What’s this?

    • Event scheduled performances/activities.
  • Who are involved?

    • Performers.
      • Range from singers, dancers or cosplayers. (Varied, based on event.)
  • Where at?

    • Event Stage Area.
  • When?

    • Depends on the event schedule.
    • Duration varies based on the activity.
  • How to approach?

    • First, Check with the event crew and/or management for permission.
      • Event staff are usually okay, but check to be safe.
    • Next, Take the photo shots or video recording, alongside other camera Crew setup near the stage.
      • Avoid getting in the way of other cameras or Crew, keep eyes open for those. (In other words, DOOOOODGE!)
  • But Why? 🤔

    • Event activities/performances are recorded by Event Staff or Independent Photographers/Videographers.
      • Used for event coverage, or handmade content.
      • Gives an idea of what activities are happening at an event.


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